Some people inspire you to grow.
Many inspire you to be nothing like them.
Early in my corporate career, I spent hours in meetings that felt like a complete waste of time. Then, I changed my perspective. Instead of sitting there feeling bored, I became an observer. I turned those boardroom tables into my practical leadership laboratory.
I watched leaders in the room. I studied their actions. I recorded what builds trust and what destroys it.
I learned something surprising: you can learn just as much from a bad leader as from a good one. It taught me a vital lesson: learning is not black and white. You do not have to like the person to extract their skills.
We learn from leaders who succeed. We learn even more from managers who fail.
Here are 5 ways to use negative examples to build your career:
1/ The Anti-Mentor
The Concept: Professionals constantly search for perfect mentors to copy. But they ignore the managers who fail. A manager who destroys trust is a powerful teacher. They show you exactly what to avoid.
The Actionable Tool: The Anti-Mentor Audit
Identify one action you dislike in your current or past management. Write it down. Commit to not use that action with your own team.
Coaching Question: What toxic behavior did I suffer from in the past that I might be accidentally repeating with my team today?
2/ The Action Filter
The Concept: When you dislike a leader, you tend to reject them entirely. When you do this, you miss a learning opportunity. A bad leader still possesses skills that got them promoted. Judge the action, not the person.
The Actionable Tool: The Nuance Extraction
Pick a leader you actively dislike. Identify one process or skill they execute well. Separate that skill from their personality and learn it.
Coaching Question: What valuable skill am I ignoring just because I dislike the person who possesses it?
3/ The Success Myth
The Concept: We see executives suffering, burning out, and sacrificing their personal lives. We assume pain is the price of leadership. It’s not. A leader who suffers shows you a system that does not work.
The Actionable Tool: The Role Model Shift
Observe the leaders around you. Find an executive who delivers high results and actually enjoys their life. Make their system your model, not the stressed executive’s.
Coaching Question: Whose definition of “success” am I copying, and is it secretly making me miserable?
4/ The Leadership Filter
The Concept: Your leadership style is the sum of the actions you copy and the actions you reject. If you do not actively filter your habits, your default style will simply be a copy of how you were managed.
The Actionable Tool: The Habit Detox
Audit your daily management actions. Find one habit you unconsciously absorbed from a past manager that damages trust. Stop doing it today.
Coaching Question: Which of my daily management habits belongs to my old boss, and not to me?
5/ The Legacy Choice
The Concept: You are the example. Your team is watching your actions to decide how to operate. You are either inspiring them to follow your path, or inspiring them to avoid it. You are someone’s mentor or someone’s anti-mentor.
The Actionable Tool: The Mirror Test
Review your behaviors from this week. Act as if your team will copy them. If they manage their stress and communicate exactly like you did this week, will the team succeed?
Coaching Question: Am I inspiring my team to grow, or am I inspiring them to be nothing like me?
The Bottom Line
Your environment shapes your career.
You decide what you copy and what you reject.
This list became my leadership manual. It can become yours.
Let’s do it together.
True leadership is about spiraling upward, getting a little bit better every single day.
We can build that momentum together to create the best version of your career and your life.
Let’s have a quick chat to define your next step.
Thank you.
Dror. (Say hello on Linkedin)
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