In the book Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl shows us the importance of creating meaning around our experiences. Even the worst ones.
An idea echoed by writer Don Miller in Hero On A Mission, where he encourages us to write the story of our lives.
The problem?
When we let it, the brain has a natural tendency to replay our bad experiences.
They say it’s hard to focus, but I find that our brains are pretty good at concentrating without being asked about the things we try to forget 😀
The Experience Transformer
And that’s where Dan Sullivan’s transformation tool is powerful. Rather than trying to avoid those thoughts, let’s deal with the experience once and for all.
“To apply The Experience Transformer, pull out your journal and follow these instructions: Think of a specific experience, positive or negative. Ask yourself :
- What about this experience worked?
- What “usefulness” can you get from this experience to improve your future?
- What can you learn from this experience about what you don’t want?
- Knowing what you know now, because you’ve had this experience, how will you approach your future differently?
- What about this experience are you grateful for?
Source : The Gap and the Gain by Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan
It’s done. You have just turned a bad experience (sometimes traumatic) into a life lesson, which will help you achieve your next dreams.
What experience will you transform?
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