August 2021. A best friend sent me a photo from a family day at the beach.

It was a shock. I finally saw the truth I was ignoring. I had gained a lot of weight.

But seeing the truth was not enough.

It took me 4 years to fix it.

4 years of “trying.”
4 years of “wishing.”
4 years of failing.

Until June 2025. I finally made a real decision. And I realized something important: I didn’t need 4 years to change. I just needed 6 months of real focus.

What is the lesson for leadership?

We all have blind spots. Feedback is the “photo” that forces you to see reality. But seeing the blind spot is only 10% of the work. Deciding to fix it is the other 90%.

Here is the protocol to turn a blind spot into a strength:

1/ Get the “Photo” (Reality Check)

The Concept:
You cannot fix what you do not see. Most leaders guess how they are perceived. Stop guessing. You need the raw, unfiltered truth.

The Actionable Tool: The “Raw Truth” 360
Don’t rely on polite feedback during coffee breaks. Perform an anonymous 360° assessment (ideally with a professional coach). You need data, not opinions.

The 3 Magic Questions the Coach will ask:

“What are [Leader’s Name]’s 3 greatest strengths as a leader?”

“What are the 3 most useful areas for him/her to improve?”

“If you had to pick just ONE behavior for him/her to Start, Stop, or Continue, what would it be?”

2/ Pick ONE Battle (The Power of Focus)

The Concept:
The biggest mistake is trying to fix everything at once. You will fail. The Paradox: When you improve one key behavior, it creates a positive ripple effect on everything else.

The Actionable Tool: Public Commitment
Choose one behavior to change (e.g., “Active Listening”). Then, go public. Tell your stakeholders: “I am working on this specific goal.” Commitment requires witnesses.

The Magic Phrase:
I am committing to improve [Behavior X] for the next 6 months. I need your help. It will take you 5 minutes a month.

3/ The Monthly Routine (Feedforward)

The Concept:
Feedback focuses on the past (which you cannot change). Feedforward focuses on the future (which you can change). It is less painful and more useful.

The Actionable Tool: The “2 Suggestions” Rule
Once a month, ask your colleagues for the future, not the past. Do not ask “How did I do?” Ask “How can I do better?”

The Magic Phrase:
“You know I am trying to be more [Behavior X]. Please give me two suggestions to do it better in the next meeting.”

The Bottom Line

Changing behavior as an adult is hard. Consistency beats intensity.

It is not easy. But there is no better feeling than looking back and seeing the new version of yourself.

I wasted 4 years wishing. You don’t have to.

If you are ready to see the photo and make the decision, let’s talk.

Let’s spend 15 minutes defining your “One Battle” for 2026.

Thank you.
Dror. 

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