The short answer is yes 😀
Don’t try to control everything around you. Work on controlling your reaction to everything that happens around you.
In the « 7 Habits of Highly Effective People », Mr. Covey writes about the concept of “Circle of Concern” and “Circle of Influence”.
“Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase. Reactive people, on the other hand, focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern. They focus on the weakness of other people, the problems in the environment, and circumstances over which they have no control. Their focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes, reactive language, and increased feelings of victimization. The negative energy generated by that focus, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their Circle of Influence to shrink.”
― Stephen R. Covey
Let’s take our actuality as an example.
Most of us have little power to influence it. But for some of us, it could become a big circle of concern.
We can end up spending a lot of energy on it.
When topics are near to your heart, do whatever is in your circle of influence.
But take distance with what is not in it.
By applying that, your circle of influence becomes bigger, and your circle of concern smaller.
You positively influence what you can, you lose less energy, and remain productive and happy.
Have a nice productive day.
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