“We go on vacation, and we stay.”
It was an important but risky project for my parents.
My sister and I were already in middle school.
On the windows of our camper, we could read:
“Family with 2 children, looking for an apartment to rent as soon as possible”.
Off to the beach😀
Professionally, my parents didn’t know what they would do.
All in good time 😀
Housing first, then work.
To make up for it all.
- Very low level of savings.
- We’d returned the keys to our apartment, and my father had given up his business.
So there’s no easy way back…
So, if you ask me, I’d say “too risky.”
But what I often see is exaggeration in the other direction with…
The quest for “zero risk.”
With far more resources than my parents had at the time, we don’t dare do anything for fear of the risk:
- In the corporate world, I’ve seen talent refused opportunities because everything wasn’t safe.
- In financial independence projects. I talk to people who dream of stopping what they’re doing, who have the financial security to quit, downsize, or change their job, and who don’t dare.
- In entrepreneurship. Ambitious people with exciting projects who don’t dare take the plunge…
We put off our desires as if we had our whole lives to make them come true.
In his book“Die with Zero“, Bill Perkins discusses the feasibility of projects compared to age.
Even if you have the finances, you’re less likely to climb Everest at 70 than at 40.
Between starting again on a whim and (never) attempting anything, there’s a lot of room for maneuver.
5 steps to speed up your major projects without risking everything
1/ What do I really want?
It’s a question we don’t ask ourselves enough.
We often think about what we want to avoid but rarely about what we want.
When you do, it’s the equivalent of a superpower.
“What are all the experiences and problems that I have to learn about and master so that what comes out at the other end is somebody who is ready and capable of becoming a successful CEO?” – Nolan Archibald became the youngest CEO of a Fortune 500 company
2/ Assessing risks: The cost of action and inaction
Our little voice keeps telling us what we’re losing.
It’s reassuring. “My job’s not so bad”.
But it doesn’t remind us of the cost of doing nothing.
- I’ll never know if it would have worked.
- I lost 20 years.
- It cost me my happiness.
Let’s not allow our little voice to control our decisions. It’s biased.
Instead, let’s take 30 minutes with pencil and paper to ask ourselves these 2 questions.
- What do I risk if I do?
- What does it cost me if I don’t do it?
What would be the worst situation?
Let go. Write down the worst-case scenario.
In 99.9% of cases, it won’t happen.
But even if that did happen, you’ve just written a few options.
And the truth is, they’re not so insurmountable.
By the way, for the curious. Just before the start of the school year, a Belgian couple passing our campsite every day on their way to the beach offered to rent their apartment. My sister and I were able to return to school on time. My father opened a shoe store in the center of Nice, and everything fell into place. However, this didn’t extinguish my parents’ desire for change. A year later, we moved again for a new adventure…
3/ Major projects: Boost them with consistency
If your plan, like Nolan Archibald’s, is to make a career in the corporate world and reach the C-suite, you can’t shy away from opportunities just because they’re uncertain.
The greater the uncertainties, the faster your progress.
If you can’t overcome the risk. Maybe you just don’t have the desire for this adventure.
So back to square 1 with the question, what do I really want?
The process is dynamic.
Don’t get stuck at one stage. The lack of congruence between our intentions and our actions frustrates us. The creation of a new project motivates us.
4/ I’m an inexhaustible source of ideas…
Even if it’s debatable, it’s certainly useful.
That’s the title of Derek Sivers’ forthcoming book “Useful Not True”, which I heard about on this podcast with Mark Manson .
Everything can be discussed. So we might as well choose to believe in something useful to us.
Clients who tell me they have no ideas often surprise me with their creativity during a coaching session.
Block out 60 minutes of distraction-free thinking and you’ll be amazed at what you’ll create. How do you (finally) focus on things that really matter?
5/ Don’t dive from 10 metres straight away, start by jumping from 1 metre with both feet.
You want to quit your job and start a training course for adults who want to eat healthily.
You’ve built up a financial cushion for the next 5 years.
Theoretically, you could dive from the 10-meters platform and quit your job immediately.
Any doubts? I understand, I’ll be scared too (I explain here how I train myself to overcome my fears).
Why not go down to 1 meter?
- Keep your job and block off one hour a day for the next 6 months.
- Create the first 5 modules of your training course.
- Contact your network and offer them your services free of charge
- Launch your first cohort with 5 students.
- At the end, ask your students to recommend 3 people who might be interested.
- Offer these people training at 50% of the price
- Keep going until you have a business model that works.
That’s what Alex Hormozi has done and recounts in his book $100M Leads. He now has a company worth several hundred million.
But don’t think it’s easy.
It’s going to be more complicated than expected. You’re going to run into a lot of pitfalls. And chances are, it won’t work.
Speed up your major projects without risking everything. Is it worth it?
I’ll let you answer 😀
For me, that’s a big yes. Adventure is in the process.
This allows me to see if I want to climb the 3, 5 or 10-meter platform or just stop because I don’t like diving.
In that case, I’ll go back to square 1. What do I really want to achieve?
Conclusion
It’s too risky to bet everything on a whim or to wait and never take the plunge.
In the first case, we risk losing everything. In the second, to regret everything.
Whether we can bear risks or not, knowing where we want to go and testing our plan helps us live life fully.
What will you do today to make your next dream come true?
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Tiago says
Hi Dror! (it has been a while!)
2 takeaways and 1 question:
“What do I really want? It’s a question we don’t ask ourselves enough”.
Super important point. I recently did a course on “negotiate better” and this was an opening question. I can tell you how many of us got stuck on that question… and how often we start with a limited “what do I want”.
Secondly (I’m with you on this one too…) the importance of scheduling a meeting with yourself. We tend to underestimate this. Thinking about something isn’t the same as meeting yourself to talk about ‘business’.
Finally, I would love to know about a project that you ‘speed-up’ under risky circumstances, but still went ahead : )
Cheers, tiago
Dror Allouche says
Thank you for sharing your feedback.
I like them.
All interesting projects carry risks. Here are the ones that come to mind:
– Quitting school early to dedicate myself to my dream of becoming world karate champion… ( which I didn’t achieve )
– Setting myself the goal of becoming General Manager when I had no experience and was only 23 years old
-Change the trajectory of my career from sales leader to marketing and then international business to help me achieve a Managing Director job.
-Stop my corporate career to find what i wanted to do
– Start a coaching practice
-…
And you, what projects are important to you that you’re trying to speed up (without risking everything)?
Have a nice day.
Cheers, Dror
Tiago says
Happy New Year, Dior! Wishing all the best to you and your family!
Sorry for my late reply. I’ve had a lot on my plate, and I’ve spent a lot of time thinking and re-thinking about the answer to your question regarding the “important projects I’m trying to speed up”. Thanks for sharing yours.
I’ve been taking calculated risks, trying to push things forward without jeopardizing everything. The first major decision was probably back in 2008 when I decided to move to Switzerland after a year under an Erasmus scholarship. It was a significant decision as there were no previous histories of emigration in my close family.
More recently, the second major decision I’ve made was to start a PhD (ongoing) in architecture three years ago. This decision took a considerable amount of time due to several reasons. The main one was related to the financial implications when you have a family with kids. A PhD student (who is also a scientific researcher, not just a student) has a relatively modest salary—ranging from 51k to 56k. Making the decision was difficult, and I’ve had to learn to live with it. .. I guess I was afraid to “lose” a certain comfort (but it’s mainly psychological because I’m not a big spender…) My goal is to complete my PhD and secure a teaching position because academia is a world that I’ve always been drawn to. I plan to combine this with my previous experience in architecture design offices, and invest all this knowledge in my own architectural practice – I’ve finished some renovation projects and I was really pleased with the results (and I suspect the clients were too :).
Now back to your OTG’s last posts.
Dror Allouche says
Thank you for sharing, Tiago, and congratulations on the many brave and exciting steps you’ve taken.
I wish you every success in your great project to set up your own architectural practice.
Keep us posted 🙂